As the new year rolls in, many of us make resolutions to improve various aspects of our lives—health, fitness and career. But what if we added something often overlooked and, at times, taboo: pleasure?
2025 could be the year we finally break free from the old social restrictions that keep us from talking openly about one of the most basic human experiences: sex. We’re surrounded by talk about fitness goals and financial goals, but discussions about sexual health, satisfaction, and pleasure still tend to be shushed into the background. And yet, our intimate lives play a pivotal role in our overall well-being, impacting our mental, emotional, and physical health.
So, let’s resolve this year to not only aim for better sex but also to openly engage in conversations about it without shame or fear.
Breaking the Taboo: Why We Need to Talk More About Sex
Sexuality is often treated as something “private” to the point of invisibility in some social circles, leaving us to navigate our desires, preferences, and boundaries in isolation. This silence fosters misconceptions, shame, and misinformation—problems that directly affect sexual satisfaction and health.
Talking openly about sex:
- Encourages education: Many people grow up without proper sex education, leaving them confused or misinformed. By normalising conversations about sex, we can correct misconceptions and provide accurate, healthy information.
- Promotes healthier relationships: Partners who openly communicate about their desires, needs, and boundaries are more likely to have fulfilling relationships—sexual and otherwise.
- Reduces shame: We often feel ashamed of discussing anything intimate, especially sex. This shame can prevent us from seeking help when needed—whether it’s to address discomfort, sexual dysfunction, or just to improve the overall quality of our sex lives. Releasing that stigma can make it easier for individuals and couples to explore and understand their sexuality.
- Supports mental health: Sexual satisfaction is intricately tied to our mental health. When people are comfortable with their sexuality and can openly talk about it, they often experience greater self-esteem, confidence, and overall happiness.
Better Sex in 2025: How Do We Get There?
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Prioritize Communication
Communication is key. If we want to enjoy better, more fulfilling sex, it’s essential that we learn to talk about what we want and don’t want. Start by having open conversations with your partner(s) about boundaries, desires, and fantasies. The more comfortable you are discussing it, the more confident you’ll feel when it comes time to act on those desires. -
Educate Yourself and Your Partner(s)
In addition to having candid conversations, it’s helpful to learn more about sexual health, pleasure, and anatomy. Sometimes, all it takes is a little knowledge to unlock deeper satisfaction in your intimate life. There are countless resources—books, podcasts, and workshops—that can deepen your understanding of pleasure, consent, and intimacy. -
Challenge Your Beliefs About Sex
In many cultures, sex is still tied to rigid beliefs, with certain behaviours considered "acceptable" and others shameful. This year, take a moment to challenge these beliefs. Reflect on your attitude towards sex and where they may have come from—whether from your upbringing, media, or societal norms—and decide if they align with your true values. It’s important to embrace a sex-positive mindset where pleasure, consent, and mutual respect are the guiding principles. -
Explore Your Own Pleasure
A key part of having better sex is understanding your own body and what pleases you. This isn’t always a given—sometimes, people need time to explore and figure out what feels good. Masturbation is a natural, healthy way to do this, and it can be liberating to know exactly what you enjoy and what helps you relax and connect with your body. This self-awareness only enhances the experiences you share with others. -
Focus on Consent and Mutual Respect
Better sex isn’t just about physical pleasure—it’s about creating a space where both partners feel safe, respected, and excited. Make consent the cornerstone of any sexual encounter, and recognise that it’s an ongoing, enthusiastic, and mutual process. Consent means that both individuals feel comfortable expressing their needs and desires without fear of judgment or pressure. -
Invest in Intimacy, Not Just Technique
Sex is about more than just the physical act; intimacy is at the core of what makes it satisfying. Invest time in emotional connection and trust with your partner. Physical touch, cuddling, and affection help build the intimacy that leads to better sex. When you feel emotionally close and supported, your sexual connection deepens naturally.
Why It’s Time to Talk About Pleasure
Sex shouldn’t just be about meeting a basic need—it’s also about pleasure. Many people go through life having sex that isn’t fully satisfying, often because they don’t feel comfortable exploring their pleasure or expressing their needs. This year let's aim to prioritize pleasure—both our own and our partner’s. When pleasure is on the table, it transforms not only our sex lives but our understanding of ourselves and our relationships.
Pleasure is not selfish; it’s essential. The more we talk about it, the more we can break the silence that has kept us from truly embracing it. And when we do that—when we let go of the shame and the secrecy—we open ourselves up to a world of deeper, more satisfying connections.
In Conclusion: Start the Conversation
So, as we move into 2025, why not make it a year of breaking the taboo? Let’s prioritise pleasure, communicate openly, and create spaces where talking about sex is just as normal as talking about any other aspect of our lives. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this is your year to explore, communicate, and enjoy.
Happy New Year—and here’s to better, more fulfilling sex in 2025!
